Why should I have a funeral ceremony?

05/07/2018   In Planning Tips

Transitions

We honor life’s most significant transitions with ceremonies and celebrations. Coming of age is celebrated with a bar or bat mitzvah or quinceañera, school graduation is marked with a commencement ceremony, marriage is observed with a wedding, parenthood is welcomed with a baby shower and leaving the workforce is commemorated with a retirement party. A funeral ceremony honors a transition, too, and just because you won’t be alive to see yours doesn’t make it any less significant. The funeral ceremony is necessary because it marks the transition from life to death for your loved ones, helping them begin a new stage of life without you through the observance of your life, death and legacy.

What is a funeral ceremony?

First, let’s define the basic outline of a funeral ceremony, as it takes many forms. A ceremony can range in scale from a small graveside gathering of family to a celebration of life welcoming hundreds of family members, friends, colleagues and neighbors. Common locations for ceremonies include a place of worship, a funeral home, social club, community center, outdoors or even in your home. Typically, a funeral ceremony will have some type of formal public speaking component, whether a formal eulogy or an opportunity for anyone to share memories with the group. These components form the base of a funeral ceremony. From this foundation, you have ample opportunities to personalize your funeral.  

Who is the ceremony for?

Funeral ceremonies are an emotional necessity for both the deceased and bereaved because they help family and friends reflect on the meaning of the life of the deceased, provide opportunities for mutual support, and set the tone for the deceased’s legacy. A funeral ceremony typically includes sharing memories and stories about the deceased. These biographical details create a complete picture of the life and impact of the departed and remind attendees of the mannerisms and anecdotes which add up to define a person. This formalized shared time provides an opportunity for mourners to uplift one another and offer mutual support throughout the grieving process. Finally, a funeral ceremony is important for the departed because, when prearranged, it allows them to shape their own narrative and exhibit the aspects of life that are most important to them. Plan your funeral in advance to ensure your ceremony reflects your wishes and meets the needs of your bereaved loved ones.